“Is It Really Misogyny To Call Out Misandry”

Is It Really Misogyny to Call Out Misandry?

Let’s talk straight.

In today’s culture, the moment a man walks in his Yah-given authority—corrects disrespect, holds boundaries, or dares to speak truth—he’s slapped with labels like “misogynist,” “abusive,” or “toxic.” And let’s be honest, most men don’t even get a chance to explain their position before the court of public opinion hands them a guilty verdict.  But here’s the question no one wants to ask:

Is it really misogyny... or is it just masculinity?

What Is Misogyny—Really?

According to modern culture, misogyny is any word, tone, or behavior that makes a woman feel uncomfortable—even if it’s righteous correction or leadership. That means if a man sets a standard in his home, expects respect, or challenges rebellious behavior, he's now “oppressing” women.

But by that logic, Yah Himself would be labeled a misogynist.

He established patriarchy (Genesis 3:16, 1 Corinthians 11:3), commanded wives to respect and submit to their husbands (Ephesians 5:22-24), and regularly rebuked the rebellious women of Israel (Isaiah 3:16-26, Ezekiel 16). Is that hate... or holiness?

Misandry: The Hidden Hatred No One Talks About

Now flip the script. What happens when men are belittled, mocked, emasculated, and disrespected? When manhood is blamed for society’s problems? That’s misandry—the hatred or contempt of men.

And yet… silence. No hashtags. No movements. No apologies.

Men are expected to take it on the chin, stay quiet, and keep providing. But if he defends himself or calls it out? He’s accused of being bitter or fragile. It’s time we stop apologizing for being men.

Biblical Patriarchy = Misogyny?

Biblical patriarchy is not abuse. It’s leadership under accountability to Yah. It’s servanthood leadership, the way Messiah led—with strength, vision, protection, and correction.But culture has no category for that. If you’re not a passive man who lets women lead, you’re labeled a threat.

Question: Should we reshape our masculinity to be more “acceptable”?

Let’s go back to the Word.

• 1 Corinthians 16:13-14 says: “Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.”

• Proverbs 27:6 tells us, “Faithful are the wounds of a friend”—sometimes correction hurts, but it’s still love.

We don’t need to be mean—but we also don’t need to be muzzled.

Is Masculinity Under Attack? Absolutely.

From sitcoms to social media, the pattern is clear: men are mocked, fatherhood is optional, and masculinity is demonized. Real men are expected to become more emotional, more submissive, more agreeable… or else.

But let me remind you, brothers:

1. Yeshua flipped tables. He wasn’t afraid to offend when righteousness was at stake.

2. David killed giants. He led boldly and worshipped fiercely.

3. Paul corrected the assembly

. He didn’t sugarcoat the truth for the sake of feelings.

Being a man isn’t toxic. Sin is toxic. Rebellion is toxic. Weak leadership is toxic.

But masculinity? That’s kingdom design.

Making Peace in a Gender War

Now here’s where it gets real: Can we make peace with women in this cultural war, or are we just called to stand firm? Scripture says:

“If possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” (Romans 12:18)

Key word: if possible.

We’re not called to compromise truth for comfort. We’re not called to win approval—we’re called to lead, love, and stand strong. That means:

• Speaking the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15)

• Walking in patience (Colossians 3:19)

• Refusing to compromise headship (1 Corinthians 11:3)

We’re not at war with women. We’re at war with the lies that keep both men and women in bondage. But make no mistake—this fight demands backbone.

Your Charge as a Man of Yah

You will be misunderstood. You will be called names. You may even be rejected by friends, family, or women who don’t respect biblical order.

So what?

“Am I now seeking the approval of man, or of Elohim? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Messiah.” (Galatians 1:10)

Brothers—don’t apologize for being the man Yah called you to be.

Walk in boldness. Lead in love. Stand on Scripture.

And when they call you “misogynist” for correcting rebellion, know this:

You’re not hating women. You’re loving them enough to lead.

By: Brother Mike Allen

April/ 8/2025