Is Desiring Multiple Women Holy or Not?

A Bible Study for the Brothers

Let’s get straight to it. Men, we live in a world that’s constantly feeding us the message that our deepest desires—the ones Yah gave us—are somehow wrong or unholy. We’re told that desiring more than one woman is unnatural, unholy, or just plain sinful. But I’m here to tell you that the struggle is real, and there’s a whole lot more going on than meets the eye. The fact is, Yah created us this way—to desire multiple women. Not just one, but a variety of women, and not just in the context of any kind of sin or lust, but because of the very way He made us.

Let’s be honest, fellas: men are visual creatures. We are biologically wired to be attracted to beauty, and Yah made sure that our hormones reflect this. This isn’t something to be ashamed of. In fact, it’s part of the design. Our bodies produce higher levels of testosterone, which fuel our drive, our energy, and our desire for variety. Studies have shown that variety in sexual partners or attraction helps maintain higher testosterone levels, which is important for a man’s health and vitality.

This biological wiring doesn’t make us animals. But in the age of smartphones and social media, it can feel like we’re being set up to fail. You can't walk down the street without seeing billboards, magazines, or ads flashing images of women in suggestive poses. It’s everywhere, guys. And if you think it’s just the realm of pornography, think again. It’s on Instagram, YouTube, even in the checkout line at the grocery store. We’re being bombarded with images of beauty and sensuality all day, every day. Now, what’s a man supposed to do with all this? Should we just lock ourselves away, pretending our desires don’t exist, or worse, suppressing them and trying to act like we’re not tempted? And why are so many corporations, large or small, spending billions of dollars every year to solicit the visual attention men of onto their advertisements? Do you think these corps are onto something so intellectually unknown as it relates to how the male natural sex drive is designed?

Yah created men with a deep visual desire. Even in the Bible, He spares no opportunity in highlighting the beauty of attractive women recorded, such as the fact that: Sarah was beautiful (Genesis 12:11), the beauty and even the attractive body shape of Rachel was contrasted with Leah (Genesis 29:17), Abigail was “beautiful and intelligent” (1 Samuel 25:3), and let’s not even get started on Eve. And then Adam, before there even was a fall, took just one look at Eve and upon first sight, said, “Wow” and then he vowed her to be his wife. Now I think we’d be right there with him. For there’s nothing inherently sinful about a man noticing beauty. That’s not the problem. The problem comes when that desire crosses into sin—when it turns into sinful lust, coveting, or chasing after what Yah has not given us.

But here’s where the rubber meets the road: men are not dogs. We are not mindless creatures simply driven by our basest instincts. The real struggle is about managing that desire in a way that aligns with Yah’s purpose. This is the fine line. It’s about how we handle the bombarding images, the temptations, and the deep-rooted desires that stir within us. Do we indiscriminately give in? Or do we check our motives and desire for the right reasons?

In this article, we’re going to explore this tension. I’m not here to tell you that you’re wrong for desiring multiple women. But I will show you how to understand and channel that desire in a way that is aligned with Yah’s Word—because, let’s face it, we’re all dealing with this temptation in one form or another. The goal isn’t to suppress or to necessarily deny these desires altogether, but to walk righteously with them, understanding where the boundary lines are.

So, brothers, let's talk about it. Where is the fine line between holy desire and unholy lust?

To unpack this, we’re going to do a man’s Bible study Digg and not a religious tap dance. We’ll define the terms, look at examples from Scripture, and walk away with clarity—not condemnation.

1. First Things First: What Is “Desire” and What Is “Holy”?

Desire is the natural longing or craving for something. Biblically, desire (Hebrew: ta'avah) can be either good or evil, depending on what you want—and why you want it.

Holy means set apart, pure, in alignment with Yah’s character, instructions, and purpose. It’s not about feelings; it’s about function and obedience.

So the question becomes: Can a man’s desire for multiple women be aligned with Yah’s design and holiness? Answer: Yes—but with conditions.

2. Yah Designed Men to Desire Women… and Even More Than One Woman

Yah’s command to “be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis 1:28) wasn’t just a suggestion—it was a divine blueprint for us as men. We are biologically designed to multiply and not to just simply add to our families. But we are ordered as a human race to multiply. A single man has the potential to father hundreds, even thousands, of children over the course of his life. Yah made men biologically capable of multiplication, not mere addition. While a woman can only bear a limited number of children by giving birth only twice within a given year, a man, on the other hand, through multiple wives, can father about 2,000 children in a given year. That means, brothers, when it comes to building a legacy, a nation—this is the power of polygyny.

Let’s break this down mathematically: Monogamy is like addition—one man, one wife, a few children. But polygyny is multiplication—one man, multiple wives, many children. This enables a man to exponentially multiply his seed by growing a family line and create a powerful legacy that can span generations.

A healthy man has the capacity to father a nation of kings, just as Abraham did, and raise up a tribe that will serve Yah. Children are like arrows in a man’s life (Psalm 127:4). The more children a man has, more potentially the greater his influence, and the greater his legacy. Modern society has tried to push the narrative that children are a burden, but this is part of an agenda to stop men from building nations and raising tribes.

Yah designed us to multiply, not just to be limited to one woman. Men are like farmers, and our seed is meant to be spread. Imagine the unlikelihood of success of a farmer who buys a huge piece of land only to dig one whole, plant one seed, produce one plant, pluck only one fruit and then take only one seed to start the same process all over again. Now that, my friends, is fruitless. However, polygyny is more of a better way to fulfill Yah’s command by simply multiplying—to create a future, raise other strong men and women, and then leave a godly legacy. Don't let society's narrative fool you; your desire for multiple wives is not unholy. It’s part of Yah’s plan to multiply and build nations.

3. Where Desire Becomes Sin: Lust and Coveting

Biblical Polygyny Isn’t Polyamorous And Doesn’t Mean Going Outside The Confines Of Scripture…

For another example what happens when we go outside Biblical confines, let’s look at King David for a clear case study.

David and Bathsheba (2 Samuel 11)

David was already a polygynous man. He had wives and concubines. But then came Bathsheba—the wife of another man. He saw her bathing and desired her.

But instead of checking that desire and submitting it to Yah, he acted on it. He took her, slept with her, and then tried to cover it up by killing her husband.

Yah’s response? Judgment.

• The child conceived in sin died.

• His son Absalom later shamed David by sleeping with his concubines in public (2 Samuel 16:22).

• His household was never the same again.

  
  

David’s desire was not wrong because he wanted another woman. It was wrong because:

• She was already married.

• His desire ignored covenant boundaries.

• He let lust drive the bus instead of righteousness.

• He went outside the confines of Scripture.

📜 Exodus 20:17 – “You Shall Not Covet”

“You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife…”

Yah didn’t say, “Don’t desire women.” He said don’t covet what belongs to someone else.

Desire becomes sin when it targets what Yah has not given you. A woman under another man’s covering is off-limits. Period.

Matthew 5:28 – “Adultery in the Heart”

“But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

Yeshua didn’t say it’s a sin to see a beautiful woman. He said it’s a sin to look with lust—to mentally undress her, to desire her sexually without covenant, especially if she’s someone else’s wife, and to then entertain sinful lust within your heart for her. Also, it is highly unlikely that He was talking about desiring both married and single women here. No, according to Torah, which He only taught from, adultery is only when a man lusts after and has sex with a married woman—not a single one (Leviticus 20:10; Exodus 20:17).

4. Holy Desire vs. Unholy Desire: Know the Difference

5. Predestination: Yah’s Will Overrides Personal

Preference

Let’s go back to Jacob.

Some might say, “Well, he didn’t plan on having four wives—he just wanted Rachel.” But here’s what we often overlook:

• Yah allowed Leah to be given to Jacob first.

• Yah opened and closed wombs (Genesis 29:31 to Genesis 30:24).

• Yah used all four women to produce the twelve tribes of Israel.

• All of Israel, including Jacob, understood that it was Yah Himself who orchestrated and built Jacob’s home through 4 women (Genesis 33:1-7; Ruth 4:11).

  
  

That wasn’t random. That was predestined.

Jacob’s personal desire may have been for one woman, but Yah had a bigger plan. He wove covenant, legacy, and spiritual destiny through polygyny—even when it came through family drama.

This proves that Yah doesn’t just allow your desires—He overrides them to fulfill His purpose.

6.  Final Takeaway: Desire is Not the Problem. Direction Is.

Your testosterone isn’t sin. Your appetite for feminine beauty isn’t a curse. Yah built you like that.

But He also gave you a standard:

• Don’t lust after what’s not yours

• Don’t covet another man’s wife

• Don’t use your desire to fornicate or manipulate

• Don’t move without covenant intention

  
  

You want more than one woman? Cool. Make sure you can cover, protect, provide for, and love each one in righteousness (Exodus 21:7-11).

Don’t be out here chasing bodies—build households.

My Final Words to Encourage You

Men, stop apologizing for how Yah made you. The world wants you to feel shame for being masculine, for noticing beauty, for craving feminine variety. Even Solomon who had 1,000 wives understood that desiring many women is a normal drive for a man. For he said,

“I gathered around me both male and female singers, along with what delights a man—all sorts of mistresses.” (Ecclesiastes 2:8b)

But here’s the truth:

Desire is not sin. But mismanaged desire becomes sin. Covenant checks your cravings. Torah sanctifies your testosterone.

So don’t let your desire run wild, but don’t kill it either. Bring it into alignment with Yah’s Word.

You are not a dog. You are not a slave to your flesh. You are a king with countless kings already in your loins. And kings build nations—one covenant at a time.

Brother Mike Allen

Diggin’ In The Word

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